We have had a busy marriage what with me deciding to go back to school and moving to Ohio first and then to Wisconsin for residency. And of course, residency has been anything but relaxing. December of 2010 brought about a change that included wanting to start a family. I can't pinpoint exactly what happened that made us want to go from a married couple to having a family. Part of it was my nephew on my side of the family. He is such a great little guy and I adore being around him. I have 3 other nephews as well on Dusty's side of the family, but we have always lived far away from them and it limited my ability to be around them enough to really get to know them. He has had a great relationship with them and has always enjoyed playing around whenever we visit. Another big part was our amazing friends we made here, the Shaws, with their 3 fun loving kids that lived just next door and shared the farm we rented. We saw them every day giving us the ability to watch the grow up over the last 2 years. It was nice being involved so intimately in the family.
We began to...umm..how should I put it...nonchalantly try to begin our family. 6 months of that and I was growing antsy. In May of 2011 we changed from nonchalantly to actively trying. 5 more moths and I was down right upset, worried and questioning things. In October 2011 I began to see a fertility specialist who I have mixed reviews on, but basically she ran some tests that all came back normal and put me on hormone therapy. I responded exceedingly well to this to the point where she wouldn't let me take it anymore. 5 months of drugs, 1 very unpleasant and invasive tube flushing and a couple samples from Dusty later and the verdict is.......drumroll please....we are both physically and hormonally perfectly normal. Huh. Well doc now what? Keep in mind that we do not have a money tree in the backyard and all infertility related expenses are out of pocket and most definitly not cheap. She suggested a shot in the dark and expensive method which we turned down and then began talking about in vitro. I have my own beliefs about in vitro as does Dusty and we said no although we suport others who do decide to go that route. That decision was made in March 2012.
Along the way I have kept in the back of my mind that I need a backup plan. I started to do research on adoption way back in December of 2011 after a year and no luck. I ran into a lot of information about all types of adoption - domestic state/government, foster adoption, international adoption and domestic infant adoption. I will go into some of the more important and interesting information in my next post.
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