Homestudy Part 2

I have had some time to let yesterday sink in better and the whole thing ended up not being anything like I expected.

The social worker was very nice and informative about the entire process. She was definitly not shy about talking about her past and her experiences with being adopted. Some of her opinions were a little different than I would have thought.

What was odd was the complete lack of questioning us about our thoughts about the future. Every question she asked was about the past which honestly she could have learned from the annoying autobiography I had to write. She asked me about my parents, their birthdates, my brother and his wife and children. She asked about my life growing up. Where and when I went to what schools. How I met Dusty. My job. Our marriage. She asked about how we handle a disagreement. She asked how close we are to family.

The only parenting type of question she asked was what core values we want to instill in our child and about daycare. Thats it. Nothing about discipline. Every child misbehaives at some point (heck, all adults do too as you can tell from me blogging while at work :). Don't you think it would be important to know how we will handle this? She didn't ask about education - home school, private school, public school? She didn't ask about our view on chores. She didn't ask about interaction - how do we see ourselves interacting as parents? How involved with PTA, sports etc do we plan on being?

Nothing. I find that odd. Maybe her job is to just make sure we are not criminals, but you would think she would be looking for parenting red flags.

Of course, I am not complaining. It was very informative and helped ease some of our concerns and questions over how the child percieves being adopted. She also came out on a Sunday to move things along for us. It just ended up not being at all like I expected it to be.