The Home Interview

Sorry I missed yesterday. There was a big horse expo going on a couple of hours away and we headed there with our friends L and B for a day of fun.

The exciting adoption news from yesterday was that I heard from my caseworker and she LOVED my profile!! :) She made a couple tiny changes and approved it being sent off to the graphic designer. I emailed her this afternoon and should hear from her in a couple days to talk about layout and color themes. After that it is 10 days until the first proof comes out.

Today was our home inspection. It lasted 3.5 hours! There were a lot of questions to go over. Who we each were before we met, how we met, our families, are interests, why we are adopting, the core values we want to instill in the child, and the list went on.

What was interesting is that sh is adopted herself as an infant and shed some light on that side of things. She stated that being open and honest to the child from day one is best, but each child is prepared to hear different information at different times. For example: she was not told ehr birthmother's first name until she was 16. She wasn't ready before then. She had heard the story of how her adopted mom was chosed, the birth and the court ceremony to make is official. She also said that almost every adopted child has an identity crisis at some point not so much over wondeirng if they were love, but over why they were not kept. She said that she never met her birth mother and doesn't think she ever will becasue she views her adopted mother as her only "real" mother. She is also against an open adoption where the birthmother can contact and visit the child. She says tha tis muddys the waters. She would keep a journal and offer information regarding physicla charateristics and even anything you know about personality throughout the years as the child is ready.

She also walked through the house and liked it. Didn't really have anything negative to say. The only negative the entire time was the info about our assests versus liabilities. We have a lot of money in student loans. If you want professional people, you get professional loan debt! It does look kinda bad, but given the fact that I am still in residency and Dusty ahsn't been out that long she said she can spin it to not look so bad.

We will get passed once we finish the paperwork. It should be a few more weeks before everything is done. Dusty is diligently working on the autobiography next to me. I have to start in on mine here in a little bit.