Where to even begin???? I guess lets start at the beginning and keep everyone on the edge of their seats...
I am currently in Pittsburgh visiting with my family. Dusty is back home in Wisconsin. I left my dead cell phone to charge at my parents' house and went to visit my brother and family and watch my nephew show me how well he rides his first bike.
Dusty tracked me down on my brother's cell phone and was kinda annoyed sounding as he asked why I didn't have my phone on me. I explained and asked why it was such a big deal. His response: because at any moment we could be chosen. I was like "huh? what does that mean" and he told me WE WERE CHOSEN!!!!!!
I laughed, I cried, I cried some more, I jumped up and down and up and down and screamed to my wonderful family who was all around me "WE GOT PICKED!!!" And then proceeding to cry some more and try to listen to what he was telling me.
I have sooooo much information to share and this blog is going to get really interesting finally, but hopefully not tooo interesting (meaning drama and she changes her mind and everything goes down the drain, but you never know...it happens 10% of the time...) and I am all worn out but here is the very basic information to hold everyone over. I will fill in all the details tomorrow.
It is a boy
He is due on 11/29/12
She is from California
We have a big decision to make as to whether or not we want to accept this match and then we need to have a conference call with her so that we can discuss things and answer any additional questions and ask any that we may have. At that point we can choose to end the match or she could. If we both still agree it is hurry up and wait time again until late november.
BUT....
I could finally get to be a mom come the holidays :)
Friday, August 31, 2012
Friday, August 10, 2012
July Update
Man, another month has gone by already. It is going fast and yet slow at the same time.
Well, here is the update I got today from our agency:
We were presented to 8 total birthmothers.
1 has gone off the grid, so probably changed her mind about the adoption
2 have chosen other families and have been matched
5 are still looking at the profiles given to them and are trying to decide.
- PA
- OH
- GA
- CO
- MI
Keep those fingers crossed for us!!!
Well, here is the update I got today from our agency:
We were presented to 8 total birthmothers.
1 has gone off the grid, so probably changed her mind about the adoption
2 have chosen other families and have been matched
5 are still looking at the profiles given to them and are trying to decide.
- PA
- OH
- GA
- CO
- MI
Keep those fingers crossed for us!!!
Monday, August 6, 2012
Sorry it has been a while
but...nothing new has happened. This is the boring waiting game time.
I did have an interesting and not all that useful (or believable really) email conversation with our agency. Here is what happened:
I got to thinking (maybe not such a good idea :) about the whole time frame to being chosen thing. We have been told from the beginning that the average time it takes to be chosen is 6-12 months. We understood that and have been prepared to wait that time. We have also been told on numerous occasions that the time is just an average and that we could have been chosen day 1 or it could take 2 years. It all depends on the right birthmother coming along and choosing us. That when it is right it will be right and nothing will hurry that along. Fine. That works for us. But...
I got to thinking. Lets put it into a house selling analogy. You ahve a house that you need to sell. Lets say it is a tiny house on a bad street that is badly outdated and you are asking a ton of money for it and are unwilling to negotiate. Your realtor tells you that houses are taking roughly 6-12 months to sell. now, this house isn't getting much traffic. You get maybe 3 or 4 people walking through it a month. In 6 months you will have had 18-20 people see the house in that time span.
Now lets say you ahve a large, modern, beautifully kept up house on a highly desired street and you are asking very little money for it and are willing to work with the buyer in any way. You are also told it takes 6-12 months to sell these days. You are getting 10-12 people a month looking at the house. In 6 months you will have had 60-72 people see the house!
Ok...you can see where I am going with this. If house/person A only gets 20 people and house/person B gets 72..you would excpet person 2 to take a lot less time to seel the house.
I posed this to our agent wondering if instead of an average time frame if there was an average presentations that occur prior to being chosen. Her response made no sense. She said that it is so subjective and could happen at any time and is just the right person seeing the right profile that we can't use averages. then why give me an average time frame?? Wouldn't average presentations make more sense?
Am I the only one thinking that this makes NO SENSE AT ALL?
I did have an interesting and not all that useful (or believable really) email conversation with our agency. Here is what happened:
I got to thinking (maybe not such a good idea :) about the whole time frame to being chosen thing. We have been told from the beginning that the average time it takes to be chosen is 6-12 months. We understood that and have been prepared to wait that time. We have also been told on numerous occasions that the time is just an average and that we could have been chosen day 1 or it could take 2 years. It all depends on the right birthmother coming along and choosing us. That when it is right it will be right and nothing will hurry that along. Fine. That works for us. But...
I got to thinking. Lets put it into a house selling analogy. You ahve a house that you need to sell. Lets say it is a tiny house on a bad street that is badly outdated and you are asking a ton of money for it and are unwilling to negotiate. Your realtor tells you that houses are taking roughly 6-12 months to sell. now, this house isn't getting much traffic. You get maybe 3 or 4 people walking through it a month. In 6 months you will have had 18-20 people see the house in that time span.
Now lets say you ahve a large, modern, beautifully kept up house on a highly desired street and you are asking very little money for it and are willing to work with the buyer in any way. You are also told it takes 6-12 months to sell these days. You are getting 10-12 people a month looking at the house. In 6 months you will have had 60-72 people see the house!
Ok...you can see where I am going with this. If house/person A only gets 20 people and house/person B gets 72..you would excpet person 2 to take a lot less time to seel the house.
I posed this to our agent wondering if instead of an average time frame if there was an average presentations that occur prior to being chosen. Her response made no sense. She said that it is so subjective and could happen at any time and is just the right person seeing the right profile that we can't use averages. then why give me an average time frame?? Wouldn't average presentations make more sense?
Am I the only one thinking that this makes NO SENSE AT ALL?
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