The c-section is scheduled for exactly 3 weeks from today :) As with most things, while it seemed like a long time when we accepted the match back in September, it has flown by.
We still have some things to do like actually book the flight which we are still debating on the best course for that. We don't want to lock ourselves into leaving from our tiny airport in case she goes early and gives us a 24 hours heads up and no flights are leaving from here that will get us there in time. We will sort it out this weekend. We also need to figure out the car seat situation. While car rental companies offer car seats at an extra cost, I don't want to put him in a used car seat if I can help it. Unfortunately, we bought a not as popular brand of stroller (Encore from Target) because it happened to be one of the few we actually liked all the features of, but that means that the car seat base isn't so popular. Most have the Graco snug ride base as an option and Hertz also offer a Costco base. I really want to avoid lugging our car seat base all the way there. I am going to look up Encore and see if the car seat is compatible with any other base or not.
The 3rd party, independent social worker finally got in contact with us. we had been playing phone tag with her for about 2 weeks. California state law states that we have to provide a non-biased social worker that we hire, but doesn't really work for us. Her role is to get all the paperwork signed and to try not to persuade anyone to do anything. She seems really nice and met with our birthmother back on the 30th. She went over all of the forms (including that terrible 30 day to change her mind waiver) and explained what it all means and what to expect. She told us that she got good vibes at this point. A couple things are different from what we had previously heard which of course gets me all in a panic that she will change her mind. Dusty had to calm me down a lot yesterday. First, she does want to see the baby before he leaves the hospital. I am really thankful to our case worker at the adoption agency because she did actually warn us about this. She told us that a lot of people say they don't want to see the baby but then ask at the hospital and not not worry at all about it. Second, she said that she would like us to let her know if we ever get a divorce or become disabled or anything major like that changes in the future. What concerns me about that statement is that all along she has told us to not even tell him he is adopted. how does that play into it then? Does she want an "open" adoption now when she had all our information from the beginning saying that we do not want that? AAAHHH! But....deep breath...and maybe it just came up in conversation with the social worker or maybe the social worker specifically asked that and so she said "yeah that would be ok" I don;t really know because 1.) I wasn't there and 2.) Dusty actually talked to the social worker and he never really ask many questions about anything. Time will tell if she changes her mind on us or not.
I have been in a ton of contact through email and text messaging with the birthmother this week. It is getting close and I want her to know we are ready and waiting for the call. She thinks she will go early, so we will have to just keep on waiting. We have gotten pretty darn good at waiting over the last couple of years with this entire process, so a few more weeks aren't so bad. I am planning on calling her middle of next week to chat and make sure everything is going well. She did tell me in her last email that she has written a form to give us the right to make all medical decisions for Wyatt after he is born and is in the hospital and that she doesn't think there will be any surprises. I think that was her way of letting me know she won't change her mind, but again you just never know. I do not know what all the adoption case worker tells her, so I don't know if she is aware of our concerns over her changing her mind or not. Keep us in your happy thoughts!!
Off to work .....
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