Phase 2 :)

I can't believe we are about to begin phase 2!!! It has only been 3 months that we have been presented to birthmothers :) Sorry in advance for the overload of smiey faces and exclamation marks in this post. I am just soooo insanely happy right now. It is a great feeling to know that we are desirable and someone out there trusts us for this. And I"M GOING TO BE A MOM!!

Ok....deep breath.

I don't think I should put too much detailed information about the birthmother here on the internet, but I can fill in some things.

As my last post said, we got the phone call on Friday. Our caseworker gave us the basic information  - her due date, that it was a boy, where she was from, and some of her basic feelings from her conversation with the birthmother. She said that she would send us some information via email that night for us to look through. We have until tomorrow to decide if we are going to accept this match or not.

Friday night I stayed up super late looking through everything and it was a lot of information. It included her personal information - name, height, weight, eye color, address etc... It also had pictures of her. She included what information she could of the father which was basically his description. Then there was information regarding her past medical history and that of her family. I don't think it is right to put this out for everyone, but I will say that it is pretty benign. No drugs or alcohol throughout the pregnancy. She does smoke and has throughout - started at 1/2 pack per day and is at 3 cigs per day now. While this is not preferable, it is not a deal breaker for us either and according to our agent we would be hard pressed to find a birthmother who doesn't smoke. There is a grandmother with a mental health history, but after I researched it more and found out the genetics behind it we are okay with that too.

Last we got a ton of information about her prenatal care to date. And I mean a ton. Apparently it is quite rare that the birthmother goes to appointments and has care. It is one of the hardest things when adopting to deal with - the lack of control over the prenatal health and  the fact that they don't seem to really care. Anyway, this is definitly not her. She has gone to every appointment and even above and beyond that. She does have a 2 year old son from a previous marriage who was born with a heart condition requiring heart surgery at 3 months old. Because of that she underwent a fetal echo that showed perfectly normal anatomy. This alone has made us love this woman - she is showing above normal care for this baby and he is getting the best prenatal care possible. She also wrote a paragraph as to why she is going through with the adoption which was interesting to read, but too personal for me to put on the internet.

Thats about it. Obviously we have decided to accept this match and we are on cloud 9. We are trying to not get our hopes up too much though. 10% change their mind at the time of birth. Oh! She is from California (yeah - california in november :)  which is the BEST state because she only has 24 hours after the birth to change her mind. So we will know quickly if we get to bring him home or not.

There is sooooo much to think about right now. Our next step is a conference call with her sometime this week to ahve a chance to get to know her better and allow either or both of us to ask questions. Our caseworker doesn't think she will have too many questions for us and I really only have a couple myself - one being why she chose us although Dusty says he doesn't really care. More to come...