The Conference Call

We were VERY nervous about this. What do you say to a woman who you have never met, but knows a lot about you and is about to agree to something you've been dreaming of for a long time?

It helped that she was nervous too. Could you imagine being turned down by a prospectice adoptive family that you picked? I can't.

We are 2 hours ahead of CA time, so picking a time was a little dicey. It couldn't be before work obviously or she would have had to get up at 2 am. After work is hard because I never actually know when after work is going to be. Dusty is gone for the weekend to a conference and I am on call for the next 7 days. In the end we picked 11 am our time yesterday since Dusty doesn't head in to work until 12ish on Wed and my morning was light. Our case worker had said that the birthmother was very quiet and probably wouldn't say too much, so the time frame should work out.

Dusty drove to my work so we could sit in the car with my cell on speaker and talk with her. I called her at 11 and after we all said he, the phone disconnected. Her phone had dropped the call. I called her back and it happened again :( We were not off to a good start.

Things got back on track though and then there was that awkward moment when none of us knew really what to say to get the ball rolling. She asked me if I had any questions and I had 1 burning one: Why did she choose us?

That sparked the conversation and it just rolled on from there. We talked to her about sooooo much and only stopped after 1 hr 40 mins when I couldn't miss any more work. I learned a lot about her and what she is thinking about and I hope she learned a lot about us too. At the end we made plans to visit her for a short weekend in October to make the birth not so awkward and she really wants us to meet her 2 year old son as well. We also exchanged email and phone numbers so that we can keep in touch over the next 12 weeks. She really wants us to keep in touch with her over this time.

Afterward we felt so great about this match! :) It is a really good thing and we are so happy. I will fill you in on more of the conversation in my next post. After I went back to work I received a text from her and guess what it contained?????

Pictures of her ultrasounds!!!!!! :) I could see him and it was so amazing and it made it so much more real.