A whirlwind of a weekend

Phew!!! What a weekend!! Again, I apologize in advance for some lack of detail, but I don't think it is appropriate to post some things online.

We left for California Friday early morning. We have a small airport 15 minutes away, but flying out of there is really expensive and with another flight in November coming up we decided to drive to the airport that is 3 hours away and save the layover too. That meant leaving the house by 5:30 am which is my usual getting up time, so it wasn't too bad. The flight left 40 minutes late, but was otherwise uneventful and we left 20 degree weather to land in 80 and sunny...well technically Friday was 65 and cloudy, but Saturday was 80 and sunny so that counts :)

We had a 2 hour drive from that airport to the town the birthmother lives in and then we checked into our hotel. We hadn't made any definite plans, so on the way I texted her to see what she was up to. She wanted to do dinner that night and informed me that her 2 years old's father (who she lives with, but isn't involved with at all..don't ask...I don't know) was going to be there to meet us as well and maybe her mother too. I hadn't been that nervous until then! A whole crew was going to be there and my stomach was doing flips! I wanted to check in and change out of our travelling grubby clothes and had hoped to get a shower too, but with our flight being so late she wanted to get a table right then and have us meet her there. I told we her had to change but would get there as soon as possible.

Dinner was great. Her mother didn't end up coming and her son's father was a nice guy. He seemed really young, but was nice and easy to talk to. We met her 2 year old son who is absolutely adorable! He was very well behaved even though he had a cold and it was getting late by the time we left. We talked a lot about various things. She focused on her educational plans and life plans and I am not sure if she was trying to impress upon us that she was planning for better things or that she too could get a higher education or what, but we listened and gave support for what she is trying to accomplish with her life.

We parted ways and then met up for breakfast on Saturday with just her and her son. Afterwards we went to Babies R Us which was awkward, but she had suggested it before because there was a specific type of formula she wanted to show us. Once there though she seemed disinterested and just wandered around. I don't know if she felt out of place or if she wished she was shopping for herself or what, but it was weird and slightly uncomfortable to shop for the baby she is carrying that we want to raise. We left there and headed to the hospital so we could get familiar with it. She made the comment that she wished she could have the c-section now while we are all there and I definitely agreed if it was closer to her due date. We took a break then and then met up for lunch later and parted ways around 3 pm so she could get the car back for her son's dad to take to work that night.

We then headed to Yosemite which was amazing!

All in all it was a good trip, well minus the getting up at 2 am to get the the airport for our 6 am out flight and then being crammed in the plane and driving 3 hours home after landing all to come home and find out that our eldest cat, Ani, was not doing well at all and had to be put down last night. Very sad and we miss him bunches. :(

I don't know if we did any good going out there and meeting with her. I don't think we lost any ground and it was great to meet her son. He is sooo cute and social. If it makes her more comfortable with her decision, then it was all worth it in the end. It is a hard relationship to build though since we really have very little in common and while we want her to be comfortable enough with us to continue with the plan neither of us really want to continue a relationship afterward so there were a lot of awkward silences once the small talk ran out and we had pretty much already covered the important plans. I hope we did settle any concerns she had and that she feels comfortable knowing us better and that we will love and take care of baby Wyatt forever.